Is there a right place and the right time? — I met my partner at an NLP training back in the day. Was it lucky that we both happened to be at the same training? Or were we at the right place at the right time? Is there a right place and time? Can you make things happen if you…

How Phone Apps are Affecting Our Perception of Beauty — When I worked with Paul McKenna on his, I Can Make You Thin days; he used to ask people if they wanted to look like supermodels. When the audience agreed, he would say, ‘so do they’ to emphasise that what we see in magazines isn’t the real deal. But what…

And why knowing the difference makes a difference — Sometimes, when my work calendar looks full, I feel overwhelmed. But I’m not overwhelmed by the sessions booked in; I’m overwhelmed by my thoughts about what’s to come. Have you ever had so much on that you don’t know where to start? You feel as if you’re buried beneath something…

How the way you care shows how you think — Would you say that you’re a caring person? And you might be, but remember, when someone tells you they have a particular trait, it’s often the opposite. After all, do you know anyone who tells you they’re laid back? I rest my case. I’ll say that I’m a caring person…

How pausing can help you get more done — If you’re busy, busy, you might imagine you haven’t got time to pause. You’re too busy to take a moment out. But pausing can often be the most productive thing you can do. Pausing is a way of refuelling your mental tank, and you’ll be able to work faster and…

Don’t make zen your zenith — You’ve done the work. You’ve read the books, bought the courses, and sat at the guru’s feet, and you feel that you fully embrace your spirituality. Now stop weaponising it. I’ve worked with many clients that have been on a spiritual journey and then assume that they’ll float on a…

The best way to win an argument is not to have an argument — Have you ever found yourself in an argument and wondered how you got here? We all know someone who can start an argument with themselves. But is that you? I never held back from an argument. I didn’t always see the debate as an argument; after all, I was making…

Why tough conversations don’t have to be tough — As soon as I got on the train, I realised I’d left my new shoes under the bed in the hotel room. Not a problem, you might think. Except that the hotel room was in Moscow, and I was on a train to our next destination. When we left on…

Embrace the unfamiliar and find freedom — Katy, a friend of mine, lives in the middle of London and wants to move 300 miles away to live in the country. Katy has wanted to do this for years. But she still lives in London. Every time she gets a step further than wishing, she’s pulled back into…