It’s time to enjoy what you have rather than mourn what you haven’t got — “I can’t even be bothered to shower,” Jodie complained, “I just think what’s the point? My life sucks.” Jodie came to see me because she felt like she was falling further down the rabbit hole of despair. She worked from home and was behind with her projects. Then, she confessed…

Influencers don’t know best — “I want to be an influencer.” I was surprised to hear this from a 6-year-old. How did she even know what an influencer is? Her mother, my friend, never seemed to spend much time watching Instagram or TikTok, but her daughter must have heard it somewhere. Am I the only…

Does losing face make you want to hide your face — I kept my eyes forward, ignoring the quizzical looks. During the lunch break at a seminar, I’d been to a diner with a few other attendees. We squashed as many as possible into a booth as the diner was busy. I ordered a nourish bowl, and knowing that this diner…

You weren’t born to float on a cloud — Disclaimer: This article is not about trauma. If you or someone you love is experiencing psychological pain from trauma, please seek out professional services. She tripped in clinking love beads, trailing a damp dog smell from her tatty, untreated afghan coat. I caught my mum’s faint eye roll as she…

How personality tests are flawed — “But he’s an ESTP, and I’m an INFJ.” Kelly dolefully stirred the foam on her coffee anticlockwise. That’s always a bad sign. “It’s never going to work.” she sighed. Kelly wanted to tell me about her latest squeeze. It all sounded good until she started speaking in tongues. “Hold on…

Is it safer if we’re all the same? — He slumped in his chair, desiccated and silent. How did they know he was alive? This was my first taste of how the other half lived. Not the people with money but the people who came from money. The British upper class. Caveat: This is a sweeping statement and not…

Do you struggle to keep your mind on one thing at a time? — I’ve noticed that when I tell myself that I’m going to focus, I do the opposite. I’m curious: what stops me from focusing? For example, my partner and I like to play chess while we eat breakfast. I am very inconsistent with my game. …

How Your Thoughts Affect How Fast You Age — My mum was hooked up to an ECG, suffering pain that she was sure was trapped wind but was so bad the consultant thought she might be having a heart attack. She made me smile when she told the consultant not to stand at the end of the bed because…

It’s time to add a full stop to your thoughts — “We’re behind with our rent, and the landlord has threatened to take us to court, which means that we’ll get a CCJ on our record and won’t be able to rent anywhere else, although I don’t see how we’re going to rent anywhere anyway if we don’t start making some…